24. Monoculture or TCK Marriage
I just got back from an academic retreat with my peers. Nerdy, but it was good all the same (: We talked late into the night about school politics, cultural backgrounds, christianity, stereotypes, labels and, of course, the future. Though only a few “ethnicities” were present we represented a smattering of cultural backgrounds from all over Asia, the States, Africa and the mix we have all gotten attending our international school. We got on the topic of marriage and who we would be willing to marry. One guy adamantly stated that he couldn’t marry a monoculture girl, particularly from his ethnicity because of the expectations to fit the cultural norm of his ethnicity. I completely agree. Although I don’t view “white” as an ethnicity… (Ethnicity has so much culture packed into it that I regret checking “white” as my ethnicity. There’s SO FREAKING MUCH MORE than the colour of someone’s skin. Grow up people.) I do recognize the fact that I am a citizen of the US, but I also recognize the fact that I will not be able to marry a guy who has only been exposed to one country (and culture). I need to marry a TCK. It’s been observed that TCKs get along better with other TCKs because they have learned in their cultural shaping that they must accept others as they are. I need that. I need someone to accept my random outbursts in other languages, my desire to travel around the world and try new cultures and foods. I need someone that will not be offended when I am not entirely accepting of my birth country, but will keep me in check (in terms of being culturally sensitive). I need someone who understands the importance of reaching out to others in order to bring different cultures together in order to better understand each other. I completely agree with my friend… I need a TCK.







